The path of leadership is not about experiencing comfort or certainty. Wanting to get the business or the team to a place of equilibrium is what keeps us miserable as leaders. There is no autopilot. If we are constantly seeking to find pleasure or avoid pain we are doomed to suffer endlessly. As long as we believe that there is a silver bullet or cool new technique that will make everything at work (or at home) perfect, it is inevitable; we’re going to be miserable. There is no such thing.
The truth is that things are always in transition; like the seasons as they follow one after the other, change is constant. When we accept that as leaders there is really nothing to hold on to, we free ourselves. Acceptance of this brings a certain peace. As leaders we sign up for this. The things that cause us to be uncomfortable or uncertainty aren’t things that get in the way of us doing our jobs. They are our job!
As the week ends, take a few minutes to recall the situations of the past week that caused you the most discomfort. These are the situations where we have the most to learn. As you think about the week coming up, what shift can you make to be better able to lead without holding on.
If we allow ourselves to let go of the need for certainty or comfort, we may find that leadership can be easier, less complicated, and dare I say, fun. This is where the path of leadership begins and ends.